What is NLP?
In order to understand this, they started to model three experts in their respective fields: Fritz Perls, a psychotherapist and founder of the Gestalt therapy, Virginia Satir, known for her approach to family therapy and Milton Erickson, who specialised in medical hypnosis. By studying their thoughts, behaviours, physiology, and body language, Bandler and Grinder discovered ways of helping people to be at their best and taught tools and techniques to expand anyone’s skills and resources.
NLP is not a pathology model in the sense that it does not see people as broken or in deficit but full of potential, skilled and built to develop and learn. At times, they are not using their resources and need help to expand their abilities and repertoire.
A basic modelling exercise is to look at an example of effectiveness or mastering, whether within oneself or observing someone that you admire and comparing it to a problematic or ineffective state. By contrasting the two states, you find what works for you. The difference is examined with different sensory modalities, mainly vision, auditiory and kinaesthetic or gestures. In a state of flow, resourcefulness or choice, people usually have an upright posture and they breathe easily. They also tend to be focused on the outside and they receive feedback they without criticism or judgement, they talk effectively and are open. On the contrary, people in a non-optimal state are focused on the inside with negative beliefs, they are in their heads, feel constrained or belittled and tend to hunch.
Changing your breathing, the position of your shoulders, your gesture as well as learning what is specific to you and what makes you thrive in a systematic way can be very powerful and is usually more effective with a trained NLP coach.
NLP is used to help people connect with one another but even more so it helps to regain a choice in one’s mind, feelings and then behaviour follows.
Amy Cuddy in a TED talk expressed how when we mention body language we think of the way we make an impact on others, or how others are impacting us. We forget to realise how much our body language impacts our feelings and thoughts. She says “our bodies change our minds; our minds change our behaviour; our behaviour changes our outcome”.
Adopting a power pose by expanding yourself and stretching out will affect your testosterone and lower your cholesterol levels and give you more confidence to take on new challenges. Little tweaks can lead to major changes. If you are reading this blog, just take a moment to change your posture and notice what has shifted in your mind.
Remember your body is talking to yourself before talking to others!!
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