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Feeling too busy?

Written by Deborah Kerr   Posted in:Stress management   March 27, 2018

Feeling too busy?
An article published by the BBC included a comment from Tony Crabbe, author of the book “Busy: How to Thrive in a World of Too Much.”  Crabbe was reported as saying “There are always more incoming emails, more meetings, more things to read, more ideas to follow up – and digital mobile technology means you can easily crank through a few more to-do list items at home, or on holiday, or at the gym. The result, inevitably, is feeling overwhelmed: we’re each finite human beings, with finite energy and abilities, attempting to get through an infinite amount. We feel a social pressure to “do it all”, at work and at home, but that’s not just really difficult; it’s a mathematical impossibility.”
Does this sound like you? Do you feel there is always too much to do?

Whatever your lifestyle, the demands of a fast-paced life creates so much pressure that anxiety and stress creeps up on us before we know it.  Burnout is becoming an increasingly common phrase.  To have more to do than you think you can manage is stressful and anxiety provoking, especially when you know that you’re not going to get everything done.

Paying attention to our feelings is important as they inform us what’s truly going on.  We need to tap in to our inner world and reflect and listen to what’s going on. Do you put others needs above your own? Do you believe you should meet the expectations of bosses, lovers or friends?

Discovering what sits in our history informs us how we relate to others as adults. We internalise the messages from our childhood given to us by our caregivers and teachers.  This means that although your boss, lover or friend may not seemingly place demands upon you, you immediately place such demands upon yourself. Once you know this, you can begin to take ownership of your responsibilities.

Realising that you can’t have it all and that something has to give is the beginning of taking care of yourself. Take ownership of your decisions even though they may be hard, and don’t let a bad day dictate your behaviours and then feeling frustrated about it. Spend time reflecting on your feelings and thoughts.  If you can discover your dogmatic beliefs you can begin to challenge them.

Spending time alone, resting, meditating or simply slowing down means more room for our inner world to express itself. Don’t leave it until you become ill because if you don’t listen to yourself.  Becoming ill is your body’s way of demanding that you do less. 

If you would like to talk to someone about your feelings of busy-ness please contact Deborah Kerr at Bridge To Health.

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