Deborah Kerr BACP UKRCP
Registered Counsellor / Psychotherapist Is there a difference in the male/female networks when it comes to supporting personal goals? What ‘kicks’ are those close to us getting when they’re looking to derail your goals – is it intentional? “Just have one drink / one cigarette / a night off from the gym”. Can we use both positive and negative responses to our plans to boost our performance overall?
I might want the challenge to climb Kilimanjaro. I get really excited about going, and start my programme for all the necessary preparation, but halfway up, I might begin to scream 'why the hell did I think this was a good idea?!'
Successful change happens when you get out of your own way. For the psyche to shift from being the biggest obstacle to change, is, to decide. You first must want something different. You need to decide, ‘I’m going to change myself’. You need to change your mind.
The new year is well underway, and many of us have thought about making some positive changes in our lives. But somehow, we meet resistance despite yearning for something different. The problem? Most of us like routine! It gives us a sense of order that helps us feel in control of our daily lives.
Loneliness is not just for Christmas, it can be for life. Millions of people express that they feel lonelier at Christmas however. As humans, we are social and sentient beings, meaning we are made up of emotions and therefore we’re not meant to be solitary, or exist on our own.